FOR PARENTS
She's not quite herself.
Coaching for girls aged 14 to 18 who need someone to think with.
WHAT YOU'VE NOTICED
She's quieter than she used to be, or shorter-tempered, or just not quite herself in a way you'd struggle to explain to anyone else.
Something might be going on, or it might just be a hard stretch. Either way, you'd like her to have a bit of extra support while she's in it.
Not instead of you, and not instead of anyone she might already be seeing. Something different in kind. An hour that isn't about looking back, but about where she is now, what she wants next, and how she goes about deciding it.
The decisions are the surface of it. What changes underneath is that she gets to know herself better, and becomes more herself in the process.
WHERE THIS SITS
Not every hard year is a diagnosis.
There's a word for everything now. Anxious, avoidant, burnt out, OCD. Some of it is real and useful and hard-won. Some of it is a girl reaching for the only language anyone has given her to explain why she feels strange.
Not knowing who you are yet isn't a symptom. It's the work of being her age, and it's harder now than it has ever been, because she's doing it with an audience and with more options in front of her than any generation before had to choose between.
Sometimes what gets called anxiety is the feeling of standing in front of a decision with no idea which part of you is supposed to make it.
If something clinical is happening, she should get real help, and I'll help you find it. But she doesn't need a diagnosis to explain why she feels lost. She might just not know herself yet.
What she needs is practice.
Practice at working out what's actually going on, instead of carrying a vague sense that something is off. Practice at reaching her own answer rather than collecting five other people's. Practice at making a decision and being able to stand behind it afterward.
Mostly I ask questions, the kind that get her looking at something from an angle she hadn't tried. Sometimes I offer an observation and ask what she makes of it, and she's free to disagree. She arrives at the answer herself, because that's the only version that builds anything.
We work on whatever she brings, small or big. The small ones are where the ability actually gets built, so the big ones aren't the first time she's tried.
WHY THIS WINDOW
The decisions come now.
The skill lasts.
Which subjects, which university, which city, which people. She's making them at the age when she knows least about herself and cares most about what everyone thinks.
That isn't a flaw in her. It's the order things happen in. It's also the reason this particular window is worth spending something on.
And the decisions are only half of it. Knowing her own mind is a skill, and like any skill it's easier to build young. Once she has it, she has it for everything that comes after.
WHAT SHE GETS
An adult who isn't grading her,
parenting her, or reporting back.
An hour a week with someone who isn't her parent, isn't her teacher, and isn't going to repeat any of it.
That last part matters more than anything else on this page. A girl will say things to an adult with no stake in her grades that she won't say to you. That isn't a failure of your relationship. It's what being sixteen is, and it's the thing that makes this work.
WHAT YOU GET
Updates on how it's going, never on what she said.
We talk before she starts, so you know who's in the room with your daughter and we can agree how this works. She knows that conversation is happening and roughly what's in it.
After that, updates on how it's going, never on what she said. I'm reachable if you're worried about something. If anything suggests she's at risk, I'll tell you right away, and she knows that from the beginning. Everything else stays between us.
STARTING
No referral, no diagnosis,
no waiting list.
She can start next week. I'm an ICF-certified coach, this isn't clinical work, and if what she needs is clinical I'll say so early and help you find it rather than keeping her.
It's also lighter to start. Less formal, lower stakes, and much easier for her to say yes to than something that begins with a referral and a diagnosis.
WHAT IT COSTS
The first two sessions are free.
She can decide whether she likes me before you spend anything.
After that, CHF 780 for six sessions, payable in three monthly installments, used at whatever pace suits her and valid for a year. That works out at CHF 130 a session. Then CHF 260 a month for two sessions if she continues, which you can pause or stop at any point. Single sessions outside a block are CHF 160.
I keep a small number of reduced-fee places, so say if cost is the thing standing in the way.
About the same as tutoring or riding, and there's nothing to cancel if she stops needing it.